Why This Necklace Is Such A Huge Step In My Motherhood Journey

May 9

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One day, I’ll tell y’all the whole amazing, heart-wrenching, “you’ve got to be kidding me” path to my becoming a mother, but in the interest of time I’ll start with this.

I wasn’t ready. In any sense of the word.

Getting comfortable with the huge shift that is motherhood is difficult when you’ve planned out every detail. Doing so under my peculiar set of circumstances was a challenge to say the very least.

I welcomed my beautiful son into the world in 2017 at the age of 27. Up until then I’d always wanted to be a mom and wanted it to happen sooner than later in theory, but as the years passed, the idea seemed to get more and more far-fetched. Like, how do people do it? How?

This attitude made it all the more difficult when the time came for me because I was in no space to receive such a tall order, alas, the time came all the same.

My pregnancy was fairly simple, my delivery was seamless and my baby was legit the best thing since sliced bread. I was in love with him ( I still am), but I couldn’t wrap my head around being someone’s mom. The concept seemed foreign, no matter how many songs I sang, sleepless nights, family trips to the doctor, and cute outfits I put together.

I realized early on that getting accustomed to this new identity was difficult because I simply did not fit the tight, small, restrictive box that society defined as motherhood and it was that concept that my psyche was rejecting.

Since then, I’ve worked really hard to define what motherhood actually means to me.

This includes knee-slapping, hilarious toddler anecdotes, amazing moments of growth for both him and me and pure joy. It does not, however, exclude spontaneous nights out with my friends (pre-Covid), big dreams, and new personal discoveries.

Personally, wearing this necklace signals that the idea of motherhood is no longer something that I have to contend with and that this new facet of myself can live in harmony with the other parts of my identity.

As someone whose main source of expression is through my clothing, it’s a powerful step to own my position in this way.

So, even though motherhood will continue to be a space of discovery, I’ve gotten a handle on what it means and looks like for me, allowing me to sit still in without feeling out of place.

I feel comfortable in it now because it’s mine and that’s a lovely place to be.

Whether you’re a new mom that’s effortlessly embracing her identity, a mama that’s struggling like I did, an OG who’s been there, done that, or anything in-between, Mama Photog’s ‘Mama’ necklace is the perfect addition to your jewelry collection.

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